Self-doubt is like that one annoying friend who always finds a way to bring you down. You know the type – they have a way of making you second-guess everything you do, say, or even think. And while it may seem harmless at first, self-doubt can have some truly insidious consequences that can hold you back from achieving your goals.
Wait… is this really a friend at all!?
Let’s start with the obvious – self-doubt can kill your confidence. You know that feeling you get when you’re about to do something big, like give a presentation or ask for a raise? Well, self-doubt can come in like a rain cloud and ruin your best intentions. Out of the blue, you’re not sure if you’re qualified enough, if you’re good enough if you’re even worthy of success. That lack of confidence can erode all areas of your life. No, I don’t think this is a friend at all! ]
That’s not all. Self-doubt can also lead to a vicious cycle of negative self-talk. You believe the voice in your head. Pretty soon, it’s all you hear. You begin to think that everyone else has it all figured out, while you’re just stumbling around in the dark. And before you know it, you’re stuck in a loop of self-criticism and negativity that feels impossible to break out of.
A prison cast by your very own mind… NO NOT A FRIEND AT ALL.
There’s also physical symptoms. When you’re constantly worried about whether or not you’re doing things right, your body can start to feel the effects. It can negatively affect your sleep, cause stomach issues like bloating and diarrhea, and even headaches and migraines. It can lead to and increase anxiety and depression. Self-doubt can take a toll on your physical health just as much as your mental health.
If it is a friend… WORST FRIEND EVER.
What do we do?
Well, first off. Recognize that self doubt is not YOU. it’s just a pattern. So, when you see it. Name it. Then, practise noticing and naming it. Over and over. Get to know it. Be curious. Define it’s qualities. The more we do this the less power our pattern holds over us. The more we recognize it as a pattern. When we see it unfolding in real-time we have a choice.
Self-doubt is no longer something we blindly live through. It’s just a pattern we notice.
Then, we can practise something new. What’s the opposite of self-doubt? It’s Self-belief. Consider… what does self-belief look like! Now, make it a pattern. Over and over.
Notice. Name. Replace.
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